Why do I always think the worst?
How Can Solution Focused Hypnotherapy help?
“Change your thoughts and you change your world” Norman Vincent Peale
Solution Focused Hypnotherapy helps you to focus your mind on the positives in your life rather than the negatives, when we focus on the positives, we are able to come up with our own solutions.
There are times in life when we all feel under pressure, overwhelmed or lacking motivation and I’m sure we have all experienced some of these thoughts over the past few weeks of lock down. Let’s understand why our brains focus on the negatives around us and what we can do to help ourselves.
Our brains are naturally wired to pick up on the negative experiences in our lives because they have evolved to respond quickly to situations that might be dangerous or life threatening. This was a great asset for the caveman, but not so useful for us nowadays, as we rarely encounter true life-threatening situations.
This type of thinking is called ‘negative bias’ and it was originally thought that it was our sensory organs, our ears, eyes etc that took in all the detail around us and then the brain, along with these details, was able to make the decisions required.
Two psychologists, Arien Mack and Irvin Rock, wrote a book in 2000 called ‘Inattentional Blindness’ which found that when we are were asked to focus on one element in a situation, we could be blind to anything else that is going on. A video was produced in 2010 that demonstrates this; A group of people were playing with some basket balls and they asked viewers to count how many passes the people wearing white did. https://youtu.be/vJG698U2Mvo if you want to watch the link do so now before reading any more.
How many did you count? I found them really tricky to follow! Most people missed the gorilla in the video or didn’t give it much attention – which is odd as it stands out when we re-frame our thoughts. This shows us that what we focus our energies on becomes our fixed perception. By dragging our negative thoughts around, our perspective stays in that same frame and we add to it, focusing on only the undesirable and often destructive elements of our lives.
This is where Solution Focused Hypnotherapy (SFH) can help you as it encourages recognition of the negative thought patterns and then supports the client by utilising different tools to build a new and more positive set of responses.
Whether you find your overly anxious, suffer with low mood or lack motivation to having a phobia, or want some focus with your eating habits. SFH is a wonderful tool as you don’t have to recount your past experiences, you are able to look forward and build the life that you aspire to.
In each session we discuss how the brain works and why we negatively forecast events, how we get stuck in our negative ways of thinking and how this becomes our natural way of life.
The client plays an essential role in this therapy by forming their own goals and imagining the future that they desire. This allows them to move to a more positive and fulfilling life.
A question we use at the beginning of each session is ‘What’s been good this week?’
Have a go and see how many things you can list and how easy do you find it to do?